Having it all, her way. Over the years, decades, and centuries, we have seen so many ideals shared about what a woman is supposed to be, how she is to "act", who she is to become and these interesting "boxes" she is to fill, fit in, or create in her life that defines her role, her purpose, her place. Not to coin the song title, but women truly are "some kind of wonderful" when we realize that our journey is one that is entirely up to us. Having it all is what many of us strive for and women like Jeane Coakley, sports reporter (covering the NY Jets), is a prime example of this.
I met Jeane through work with Belli Skincare. She had used the products through her pregnancy and fell in love with them. Although this may have made it easier to reach out to her, I will admit, it only takes a few moments in talking with Jeane to realize she is the real deal when it comes to being successful, yet grounded in so many ways. I wanted to pull her through the phone into my zip code and move her in next door. Her outlook and experience on being a MOM to 2, a WIFE to former NBA player (now current coach), also being a professional sports reporter covering the NY JETS, let's just say being busy is an understatement, holding balance is challenge, but staying grounded she's got this!
In a world where there is so much out there marketed to women about who, what, when, where and why we should excel, achieve, be all things, sometimes its nice to know having it all is your version of perfect and how you see it. A woman's place is everywhere she is, in every moment, setting, conversation, opportunity and situation. There is no wrong answer or medium in coloring your own story however you want. Can you have it all? The answer is YES! The glory is your ALL being defined by no other roaster besides the one you make for yourself. It's not a race to a finish line, but a cross country journey at your own pace.
Keep reading to understand more about Jeane and why she is just so easy to like and want to know more about. she has been so kind to do a little Q + A with us and share her outlook with Belli on a bevy of topics having to do with motherhood, career and more.
Who is Jeane Coakley?
That is a great question. I have no idea! I guess it all depends on when you ask me. Right now, at this moment, I am a procrastinator who should have had answered these questions sooner J I hold a lot different titles. I’m a mom first and foremost. I’m a wife, a sister, a daughter, a friend, a sports reporter, a runner, a cupcake alcoholic. I’m spontaneous, bull-headed, focused, driven, passionate, forgetful, crazy, passionate, insecure, a want to be world traveler. I’m a whole a lot of everything.
It looks like you have it all. Two beautiful kids, a successful career, married to a former NBA player. What is the secret?
Wine? A lot of wine. No, I’m kidding (sort of). Here’s the thing. I don’t have it all. NO one has “it all”. I actually hate that phrase. I have learned that something has to give. You can’t be mother of the year, winning Emmys at work, being the perfect wife, and always there for your friends. It just isn’t realistic and you will fail at it all if you TRY to be it all. I have just realized that no matter what I’m doing I’m going to feel guilty about something. But that’s ok.So I willgive my best on that day. But the one thing that I will try to be really really REALLY good at is being a mom. Because you don’t get another chance. There are certain things that are non negotiable when it comes to my kids. It’s all about balance. And sometimes I’m great at it but most times I suck at it. (That’s when the wine comes in ).
How did you get in to media journalism?
I have always been a very curious person so journalism just seemed liked the perfect field for me.I was also decent athlete growing up and loved playing and watching a lot of sports so by default I became a sports reporter. And for the past 18 years that’s what I have been doing. It wasn’t an easy road and I had to bust my butt to get to where I am now. My first job out of college with my brand new spanking journalism degree was in Billings, Montana. I was a NEWS producer making 17 thousand dollars a year. I loved every second of my time there and met some of my best friends there.
What do you find most rewarding about your career?
I get paid to watch and talk about sports for a living. How
much better does it get? Seriously, I’m pretty fortunate to be doing something
that I love. The one thing I find most rewarding is the opportunity to tell
people’s stories. Whether it was about Ruthie, a 90 year old woman who ran 5
miles every day (I met her 15 years ago when I worked in Yuma, Az) or this past
December when I was able to tell Jonothan Harrison’s (Jets Player) story about
how he was bullied as a kid. Everyone has a story and I love hearing them and
you find most rewarding about being a woman in industry?
Seeing other woman thriving in this industry. Some of my very best friends in the world are journalist and when I see them succeed or kicking ass, it is the best feeling. I am surrounded by so many smart, talented, amazing women that make me want to be better.
What do you find most rewarding about being a mom?
Oh gosh. I’m smiling as I write this. Just seeing their innocence. My 2 ½ year old son is full of energy, adventure and curiousity. And I adore that about him. My 6 months old daughter is all smiles and pure joy. Just knowing that I get to help and watch them grow into unique adults fills me with pride.And just knowing that these two little humans depend on you and you created them. Actually, writing this out sounds more terrifying than rewarding.
What do you find most challenging about balancing career mom and personal life?
EVERYTHING. There isn’t enough time in the day. I love my family more than anything in the world. But I also love job. Like I said earlier, it’s all about balance.
Best advice you would give a working mom?
I’m a better mom, wife, reporter, friend, when I’m happy. So finding some time for just me, even if it’s just a 20 minute run is important. My husband is a college basketball coach so both of our schedules are crazy and not your typical 9-5 jobs. He’s great about getting up in the morning with the kids while I can workout. Scott is an amazing dad, so having a great partner helps. Also, asking for help. We have a great network of people. Our nanny is so flexible and adores our kids, my mom and sisters are rock stars – it just helps knowing that our kids are so loved and well taken care of when we aren’t there.
We would assume with your face being in the media, skincare and how your skin looks is important, what do you look for in skincare products?
is my “moneymaker” – I'm 75% kidding about that statement. It wasn’t until the
past couple of years I started taking care of my skin. I look for all natural
products. I found the Belli products when I was pregnant with my daughter and
fell in love with them. My skin was transformed a month after using the
products. Being on tv, I wear A LOT of makeup (I mean A LOT – I’m a mom of two
bags under my eyes are a staple) So finding a product that is gentle and
natural is so important.
If you could send a message to young women starting out in their careers or life what would it be?
I would tell them to not worry about what everyone else is doing and thinking. Just be you. Don’t waste your time trying to be someone you are not. I wasted so much time worrying about what others thought of me. Also, don’t compare yourself to anyone else. Everyone’s journey is different. And most of the time what you see on social media isn’t telling the whole truth.
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